We all know how good it feels to smile and how having something about which to smile can brighten our days. Unfortunately, my family has had a lot weighing on our hearts and minds lately, so we haven’t been smiling as much as we usually do.
I want to bring cheer to my husband, so I’ve come up with some ideas for bringing a smile to his face. Would these make your husband smile, too?
Ways to make your husband smile
- Tell him you love him and give him an enthusiastic kiss
- Wash and detail his car
- Surprise him with a date
- Hide an encouragement note in his lunchbox
- Put googly eyes on items in his lunchbox
- Complete some of his household chores so he can relax
- Share a joke or funny meme with him
- Grab his favorite candy bar or snack from the store
- Declutter the bedroom (or the kitchen table, entryway, or whatever other area is unsightly and difficult to use due to clutter)
- Compliment something specific about his appearance
- Send him a text message telling him you miss him while he is at work
- Initiate sex
- Make his favorite dish for dinner
- Dress nicely and put extra effort into your appearance next time you go out together (even if you’re just going to the grocery store or a family dinner)
- Give him a backrub
- Tell him you appreciate all he does
- Let him sleep in on Saturday morning
- Get him tickets to see his favorite sports team (or comedian, musician, etc.)
- Tidy up the house before he comes home
- Be enthusiastic about visiting his family or friends
- Notice when he needs new underwear or socks and get these for him before he asks
- Reminisce about humorous moments you experienced earlier in your relationship
- Watch a funny movie together
- Give him time to spend with his buddies
- Meet him at his work for lunch
It’s interesting that I find myself smiling when I complete one of these gestures for my husband. I shouldn’t be surprised, though, given what the Bible says in Proverbs 11:25:
“A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.”
What would you add? How do you bring a smile to your husband’s face?
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These are great ideas! Sometimes I’ll sneak a love letter or treat in with his lunch, and that makes him happy.
It’s amazing how a small gesture like that can make a big difference!
Have done and been doing most of those but that doesn’t even bring a thank you much less a smile.
I’m so sorry to hear this, Ann Marie. It must be very frustrating.
Though it may not alleviate your disappointment, it’s important to remember that you can’t control your husband’s response–you can only control what you do! There is value in you trying to bless and encourage your husband, even if he doesn’t smile or say “thank you” in return. You are doing your part, and that’s all you can do.
I’ll pray for you, Ann Marie. I hope it gets better!
Some of these made my husband smile, and I regularly do most of them, or have done about 20/25 of these, but I end up feeling that my conversation bores him, as all he does is talk about his work problems. If I try to say we should talk about other things, he says how much he does for the us (cooking and working hard -which is true) and it just turns into a fight. I can’t afford tickets, as I’m on minimum wage.
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– Put googly eyes on items in his lunchbox [He doesn’t have a lunch box and he makes his own lunch ]
– Share a joke or funny meme with him [that made him mad. He works in I.T. and he’s seen them all and not interested]
– Make his favorite dish for dinner [he doesn’t trust my cooking but I made bread and biscuits which he didn’t really eat as he was dieting]
– Be enthusiastic about visiting his family or friends [he never wants to see them I’ve given up asking]
– Hide an encouragement note in his lunchbox [handwritten note from cereal box left for him to find on his laptop about how amazing he is. He just said this was strange, I put it in his home office where he can look at it and he hasn’t taken it down.]
– Declutter the bedroom (or the kitchen table, entryway, or whatever other area is unsightly and difficult to use due to clutter) [theres no clutter in my house!]
– Initiate sex [he’s rejected me the last 3 times. I’m 70kg (about 150 pounds), so chubbier than I was when we met. I used to be only 58kg, so I can understand this somewhat and I am trying to eat healthier]
– Dress nicely and put extra effort into your appearance next time you go out together (even if you’re just going to the grocery store or a family dinner)[i try to always do this and always put make up on and I always do my hair]
– Watch a funny movie together [we never watch stuff together – even programs we both watch. He prefers his headphones and his time alone]
– Give him time to spend with his buddies [he has 2 days alone every second weekend to do whatever he wants and see who ever her wants as i am working]
– Meet him at his work for lunch [haven’t done that for about 4 months]
I admire your dedication, J. You’ve done so much! I’m sorry your efforts haven’t had the desired effect. I’m sure you are feeling frustrated, and this is very understandable.
I hope your husband soon appreciates your efforts and puts similar effort into investing in your relationship.