My husband has numerous talents that come naturally to him. He sings really well. He’s great with computers and other electronic devices. He’s absolutely amazing with directions and remembering how to get places. However, being supportive of me when I’m in labor doesn’t come as naturally to him.
I think this is the case with many men. They’re excited and they care, but they don’t know what to do. After all, for many years labor was considered to be women’s work. Additionally, many men are inclined to take control and fix things. Labor can’t be fixed—it’s a process that progresses at its own pace and in its own way.
I’m about to give birth to my third baby. I want and, if I’m perfectly honest, desperately need my husband’s support during labor. I was going to share some ideas with him regarding how he can do this, but after speaking with some other moms I realized that other couples need these ideas, too. Thus, I’m sharing the following list with him and with all of you.
(Click on the image to view and download a printable version of the list.)
Whether you use this as a checklist during labor or simply use it as a way to begin discussing your preferences, I hope you find it to be helpful!
What additional ideas can you add?
This is an awesome list, I totally agree with everything on here (I’ve had 4 kids) Great resource.
I’m so glad you feel it is accurate, Kathleen! Everyone has a different experience and different preferences, so I tried to include things that would work for everyone.